It’s been a while since I’ve had a Sunday ramble, I have written the odd one but never quite to the ‘publish’ stage. This is going to be a bit of a tricky one to put into words, but here goes.
When I first started my blog, I aimed to be an anonymous blogger. Back six years ago, blogging wasn’t as common as it is now and so being ‘anon’ was possible and something a lot of bloggers did at the time for want of maybe keeping their blog world away from their real world. Over the years, the line between the blog and the real world has blurred to the point of no return. It’s basically impossible to be a blogger and be anon these days. But I have always wanted to keep a bit of a line between my own personal life and the life I live online (hence some of the ways I’ve been holding back with my wedding photos for instance) or why Vlogging my life isn’t really for me.
But then on the other end of the scale, I love writing posts like this – where I just type as I think and put the thoughts that are whizzing around my head on to ‘paper’ (screen). It’s like my own little form of therapy. It’s a chance to let out a load of random ramblings and more often than not after writing one of these posts I feel like I do after a good chat with a friend. I personally get a bit of an ‘offload’ from it, and it’s nice to feel like the more personal posts give a bit of insight into who I am – beyond what I think about the latest nail colour or lipstick. Plus, when you write anything that then people take the time to comment on and tell you they agree or could relate to it – that’s also a really rewarding feeling.
But then, where does the line lie between sharing those personal things and knowing the boundaries. Or even having boundaries?! There’s something that doesn’t sit right with me about the idea of anything that’s truly personal to me, being seen to be used as ‘click-bait’! If I blog it, it’s either because it will potentially help me (selfish as that is) or because it will possibly help others. But some just see personal posts as luring nosy folk to read! I promise that will never be the case with me.
Honestly, I don’t know the answer and probably never really will. All I know, is that there are some things I will write about without a thought. There are others that make me pause and consider before I hit publish.
Part of the joy of the internet is and always will be how unfiltered it can be and how you can be the other side of the world to someone and still read about anything from what they wore that day to their deepest thoughts and feelings. But still, there are some things that in my view are nice to save for the real world!
Let me know what you think – is there such a thing as being too personal on your own blog? Or do you think the more open the better? Have you ever read something on a blog and had that moment of thinking ‘crikey, that’s a bit TMI/personal/intimate…’? At the end of the day, each blogger has their own personal rules and boundaries – I’m just really interested to see what other’s thoughts are on the subject…